Learning Lessons

28 Aug

It is rare that I find an author that can put my thoughts into words.  So often I find my head full of thoughts and words, pondering feelings.  There are many sides to every story.  And sometimes conflicting and opposite feelings  reside.  Yet somehow Emily Giffin, author of New York Times Best-Selling novels Something Borrowed, Something Blue, Baby Proof, Love The One You’re With, and Heart Of The Matter (yes, ALL FIVE OF HER BOOKS HAVE BEEN BESTSELLERS!!!) finds a way to capture what I cannot.


One more chance.
Words that my mother heard, more than once.  Words that women debate.  Whether you can forgive and whether you should trust.  I think of all the judgement from society, friends, and family, the overwhelming consensus seeming to be that you should not grant someone who betrayed you a second chance.  That you should do everything you can to keep the knife out of your back, and to protect your heart and pride.  Cowards give second chances.  Fools give second chances.  And I am no coward or fool.

Yet here we are… And once again, I close my eyes, ready to take a leap of faith, ready for the long, hard road ahead.  I have no idea how it’s going to turn out, but then again, I never really did.  …I believe that, buried beneath disappointment and fear, anger and pride, I just might find it in my heart to forgive.”
Heart Of The Matter


“Sometimes there are no happy endings, No matter what, I’ll be losing something, someone.  But maybe that’s what it all comes down to.  Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way.  And maybe making that choice, again and again, day in and day out, year after year, says more about love than never having a choice to make at all.”
Love The One You’re With


“It was about grace, she decides, something that has been missing from her own life.  Whether she was born with a shortfall of it or lost it along the way, Valerie can’t be sure.  But she wants it now.”
Heart Of The Matter

Forgiveness… screw that.  Grace… what the hell is that?!  And Love is a choice?!?!
It sucks but it is true.
I need to learn to forgive.   And remember that forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting.
I need to give grace.  And accept it.
And love… most of all, I need to realize that sometimes you have to make love work.  You can’t give up on it when it is not ideal.


One Response to “Learning Lessons”

  1. laurennicolelove.com September 2, 2010 at 8:55 am #

    I love that woman and her books. They are amazing. ❤

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